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Do It Anyway

Why Waiting to Feel “Better” Might Be Holding You Back

There’s a moment that sneaks up on us. It might be when you’re brushing your teeth, driving to work, or standing in line at the grocery store. You catch yourself thinking, “I’ll do it when I feel better.” When I’m more stable. When the anxiety settles. When I finally stop feeling this heavy sadness.

But what if that moment never comes?

Here’s the hard truth: waiting to feel ready might mean waiting forever. Life doesn’t always give us a neat little window where everything aligns and we suddenly feel brave, joyful, or put together enough to start living. Healing doesn’t always show up before the experience. Sometimes, the experience is what heals you.

So go live.

Not a curated, perfect version of life. Your real, messy, miraculous life. Do it sad. Do it anxious. Do it uncertain. Let the shaky steps count just as much as the sure ones.

You don’t need to have it all figured out to move forward. You don’t have to be healed to be worthy of joy, love, connection, or progress. If you wait for all the pain to go away before you begin, you might miss the part where the beginning is what softens the pain.

We’re taught that clarity, happiness, and motivation should come before action. That we need to fix ourselves first, and then we’ll be ready. But what if the act of showing up exactly as we are is what helps us feel whole again?

Start living now. Not because everything feels easy, but because your life is happening right now. Don’t sit on the sidelines waiting for a cleaner chapter. Write your story in the middle of the mess. Use the colors you have, even if they don’t match.

You don’t have to be fearless to be brave.

Sometimes the unknown is where you discover your strength. Sometimes walking into the moment is what brings the healing you’ve been waiting for.

Whatever it is, from starting the business to taking the trip, signing up for the class, applying for the job, going on the date, or saying yes to the opportunity, you are allowed to do it imperfectly. You can carry your sadness, your fear, your doubt. You don’t need permission to begin.

Just begin.
The healing might be waiting on the other side.

xoxo
-S

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Letting Go

Goodbye to My Non-Farm Dreams

If someone had told me a few years ago that I’d be saying goodbye to my chickens, I probably would’ve laughed in their face. Those quirky, feathered little ladies brought so much joy into my life. They were part of my big homesteading dream, a dream I poured love, sweat, and way too much money into. If you’ve been around a while you are fully aware of all of the ups and downs I’ve faced with these cluckerellas. But here I am, writing this post with a bittersweet mix of emotions, knowing it’s time to let go.

Letting go of my non-farm dream wasn’t something I took lightly. It’s not easy to admit when a season of your life has run its course. But deep down, I knew it was time.

A Dream Hatched

When I first started raising chickens, it felt like a step toward a life I had always imagined. Fresh eggs, a little slice of self-sufficiency, and the simple pleasure of watching them scratch around in the yard. It was a dream that felt so right.

But life has a funny way of changing the script. As much as I adored those chickens, my circumstances shifted. The time, energy, and resources needed to care for them started to feel like too much. It became clear that the life I had envisioned was no longer aligning with the life I am building now.

The Goodbye

This week, I packed up my girls and drove them to their new home. A beautiful farm where they will have more space and freedom than I could ever provide. Watching them settle into their new coop was both heartwarming and gut-wrenching.

I cried. Of course I cried.

Saying goodbye is not just about the physical act of letting go. It is about mourning what could have been. But it is also about making peace with the fact that we cannot do everything, no matter how much we want to.

A New Chapter

Here is the silver lining. As one door closes, another opens. Letting go of my non-farm dream has freed up space physically and mentally to focus on other goals.

One of those goals is my health, and I am thrilled to share a milestone I have reached. I have lost 20 pounds at the time of filming. At the time of posting, it is over 30. I have lost 18.25 inches off my body. This progress has been months in the making, and honestly, it feels like a win I really needed right now.

I am learning that progress, whether in fitness, personal growth, or life in general, requires sacrifices. Letting go of my chickens is not just about saying goodbye to a dream. It is about embracing the bigger picture.

Lessons in Letting Go

If there is one thing I have learned through this process, it is this: letting go does not mean failure. It means making a conscious choice to prioritize what matters most in this season of life.

And that is okay.

It is okay to pivot. It is okay to put a dream on hold. It is okay to admit that something is not working anymore.

Because sometimes the hardest goodbyes are the ones that lead to the best beginnings.

Your Turn

Have you ever had to let go of something you loved to make room for something new? I would love to hear your story. Let’s talk about it in the comments below. 💬

And if you want the full behind-the-scenes scoop on this emotional goodbye, check out my latest video on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FeYH_eiogvY

xoxo
-S

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Rediscovering Myself: A Journey Ahead

Life has a peculiar way of sweeping us along its currents, often pulling us away from the shores of our true selves. In the cacophony of daily obligations, expectations, and societal norms, we easily lose sight of who we truly are. I’ve come to a pivotal moment in my life where I realize I need to find myself again. This blog post is a heartfelt commitment to my future journey of self-rediscovery. Perhaps it might inspire you to embark on your own voyage of finding your true self.

The Gradual Erosion

Without noticing, we begin to drift away from our core. We become the roles we play—parent, partner, employee, business owner, friend—until those roles overshadow the essence of who we are. I’ve worn many of these identities like a second skin. Each layer adds a burden, each responsibility a distraction. Somewhere along the line, I stopped being ‘me’ and started being everything for everyone else. This realization did not come suddenly. It came slowly, over time, as I began to feel the weight of an inauthentic life pressing down on me.

The Wake-Up Call

My wake-up call came as a slow burn rather than a sudden jolt. It was the quiet realization on a Sunday morning, with a cup of coffee cooling in my hands, that I no longer recognized the person staring back at me in the mirror. My dreams, my passions, my unique quirks had buried under the weight of routine and the expectations of others. The familiarity of daily life had dulled my senses, numbing me to the loss of my true self. I need to reclaim my life, to strip away the layers that no longer serve me. It’s time to reawaken the dreams that once fueled my spirit and reconnect with the passions that once defined me.

Embracing Solitude

The first step in finding myself again involves embracing solitude. Not just physical solitude, but an emotional and spiritual one. I need to create a space where I can listen to the whispers of my soul, untainted by external noise. Long walks in nature, journaling, and quiet moments of reflection will become my sanctuary. In these moments, I hope to reconnect with the person I used to be. More importantly, the person I want to become. This solitude will not only serve as a retreat but as a workshop where I can rebuild and refine my sense of self.

Reigniting Passions

Rediscovery also means rekindling the flames of old passions and exploring new ones. I plan to dust off my paintbrushes, buy a new set of watercolors, and let my creativity flow. (Figuratively speaking. . . you don’t want anything to do with something I might be painting. . .) I will pick up books that have gathered dust on my shelf. Each page will take me back into the world of imagination and wonder. I want to start experimenting in the kitchen, turning cooking into a joyful, meditative practice rather than a chore. These activities, though small, will be profound in their ability to bring me back to life. Moreover, I intend to seek out new hobbies and interests, pushing the boundaries of my comfort zone to discover facets of myself that have yet to be revealed.

Setting Boundaries

An essential part of this journey involves learning to set boundaries. I have to learn to say ‘no’ without guilt and to prioritize my own well-being. It won’t be easy. People won’t always understand, but I know it’s necessary. I need to surround myself with people who uplift me. Those who understand my need for space and growth. Supportive friends who encourage my journey without judgment. I must communicate my needs clearly and assertively, making my personal growth a non-negotiable aspect of my life.

Fighting for Myself

A crucial element in this journey is learning to fight for myself so I don’t lose myself again. Life will always try to pull me in a million directions. I must stay grounded in my commitment to myself. I need to stand up for my own needs and desires, even when it’s uncomfortable. This fight means constantly reminding myself of my worth, advocating for my time, and resisting the pressures to conform to others’ expectations. It means being my own champion, my own best advocate, and fiercely protecting the boundaries I set.

Embracing Challenges

I also recognize that this journey will not be without its challenges. There will be moments when I doubt myself. Times when the path forward seems unclear. I need to embrace these challenges as opportunities for growth. Each obstacle will serve as a lesson. Each setback a stepping stone. By facing these difficulties head-on, I will become stronger and more resilient. I intend to approach these challenges with a mindset of curiosity and learning, viewing them as integral parts of my journey rather than impediments to my progress.

The Ongoing Journey

Finding oneself is not a destination but an ongoing journey. There will be moments of clarity and moments of doubt. Times when I feel in sync with my inner self and times when I feel lost again. But I’ve come to understand that this is part of the process. I will continually peel back the layers, question, explore, and evolve. I will celebrate the small victories and learn from the missteps, always keeping my eyes on the goal of living authentically and fully.

The Beauty of Rediscovery

In this journey of self-rediscovery, I aim to find beauty in vulnerability and strength in authenticity. I’ve learned that it’s okay to not have all the answers, that it’s okay to be a work in progress. Each day, I strive to be a little more me, to live a life that resonates with my true self. And in doing so, I hope to inspire others to embark on their own journeys of self-discovery. I envision a future where I am not only more attuned to my own needs and desires but also better equipped to support and inspire those around me.

Finding myself again will be a challenging but profoundly rewarding experience. I commit to this journey, with all its ups and downs. If you, too, feel disconnected, I encourage you to take that first step. Embrace the journey back to you. You are worth it.

This post serves not just as a reflection but a call to action. Let’s reclaim our identities, pursue our passions, and live authentically. Together, we can find our way back to ourselves and create lives that truly reflect who we are. The road ahead may be long, but it promises a return to the vibrant, true selves we were always meant to be.

xoxo
-S

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Embracing the Complexity: Navigating the Multifaceted Personality

Navigating Self-Doubt and Psychological Concerns

So, you’re someone with all these interests – art, science, sports, music – you name it, you’re into it. Now, fitting all of that into one neat little box? Yeah, not happening. It’s like trying to force a square peg into a round hole. Frustrating, right?

Here’s the thing, with all these diverse passions, it’s easy to feel a bit lost at times. You might start questioning yourself – are you just scatterbrained, or maybe there’s something more going on? It’s like you’re trying to solve a puzzle with half the pieces missing, and trust me, it’s stressful.

Then there’s society, always trying to slap labels on everything. So, when you don’t fit neatly into one of their boxes, it’s like you’re constantly swimming against the current. Exhausting? Oh, absolutely.

Having a bunch of different interests doesn’t mean you’re broken. Nope, not at all. Psychologists actually encourage embracing your complexity. It’s what makes you, well, you! Instead of trying to cram yourself into a box, why not celebrate your uniqueness? You’re like a one-person variety show, and that’s pretty darn cool.

It’s okay to feel a little lost sometimes. We all do. But you don’t have to go it alone. Reach out to your friends, your family, or even a professional if you need to. Talking about what you’re going through can be a game-changer. Trust me, there’s strength in numbers.

Reframing Perspectives and Seeking Support

Now, let’s flip the script here. Instead of seeing your diverse interests as a burden, why not embrace them as a superpower? (And this is advice even I need to start taking…) Seriously, think about it. You’ve got this whole arsenal of skills and passions at your disposal. That’s pretty powerful stuff.

Sure, navigating life with a multifaceted personality can be tricky. But it’s also what makes you so dang awesome. You’re not just a one-trick pony—you’re a whole circus! So, the next time you’re feeling overwhelmed by all your interests, just remember: you’re not alone, and you’re definitely not broken. You’re just beautifully complex, and that’s something to celebrate.

If you ever need a reminder of just how awesome you are, just reach out. Whether it’s a friend’s pep talk or a session with a therapist, there’s no shame in asking for help. We’re all in this together, after all. You could even comment below! I really would like this community to be a place of strength and support, and let’s face it, if you follow me, you’re down or the chaos.

Embracing Complexity as a Source of Strength

Alright, let’s wrap this up with a big ol’ bow. Embracing your complexity isn’t just about surviving—it’s about thriving. It’s about owning every quirky, unique part of yourself and shouting it from the rooftops.

So, the next time life throws you a curveball, don’t sweat it. You’ve got this. With your diverse interests and unwavering resilience, there’s nothing you can’t handle. You’re a force to be reckoned with, my friend. So go out there and show the world what you’re made of. You’ve got this!

xoxo
-S