This post was going to be a bit of an apology for not posting yesterday, but after a phone call with a collogue I have a bit of advice to heed “never apologize”.
To clarify – the intention of yesterday’s post was to be the announcement that my video finally uploaded to YouTube, but, as it turns out, the last little stretch has still taken 48 hours. I get a bit annoyed with that, but I digress…
Let’s dive into this apology thing a little bit.
In a world where conformity often masks the true essence of individuality, the notion of refraining from apologies can be a radical act of self-affirmation. It’s about reclaiming the narrative of our lives and refusing to diminish our authenticity through unnecessary self-deprecation. While the concept of never apologizing may seem confrontational, it is, at its core, a declaration of self-worth and a commitment to honoring one’s truth.
Apologizing, in many contexts, has been ingrained as a societal expectation—a reflexive response to avoid conflict or maintain harmony. However, this ingrained habit often comes at the cost of our authenticity. How many times have we apologized for expressing our opinions, pursuing our passions, or simply being who we are? Each apology chips away at the foundation of our self-esteem, reinforcing the notion that our true selves are somehow flawed or unworthy.
By embracing the concept of never apologizing, we liberate ourselves from the shackles of societal judgment and self-doubt. It’s about unapologetically owning our beliefs, desires, and boundaries, without seeking validation or approval from others. In doing so, we reclaim our power and assert our right to exist authentically in a world that often demands conformity.
Moreover, refraining from apologies allows us to set boundaries and prioritize our well-being without guilt or hesitation. How often do we apologize for saying no, asserting our needs, or simply taking up space? By rejecting the need for constant validation, we cultivate a deeper sense of self-respect and self-love, honoring our inherent worthiness regardless of external validation.
Furthermore, the concept of never apologizing is not about absolving oneself of accountability or refusing to acknowledge mistakes. Rather, it’s about reframing apologies as acts of self-betrayal—a betrayal of our true selves in service of societal expectations. It’s about discerning when apologies are genuine expressions of remorse and when they are merely attempts to placate others at the expense of our authenticity.
In embracing this mindset, we create space for radical self-acceptance and self-empowerment. We reject the notion that our worthiness is contingent upon meeting arbitrary standards or conforming to societal norms. Instead, we celebrate our uniqueness, honoring the diverse tapestry of human experience without apology or explanation.
The concept of never apologizing is not a rejection of accountability but rather a celebration of authenticity. It’s about reclaiming our right to exist unapologetically and honoring the truth of who we are, without diminishing our worthiness for the sake of conformity. So, let us embrace the power of authenticity and liberate ourselves from the burden of unnecessary apologies, for in doing so, we pave the way for a more inclusive, compassionate, and authentic world. That being said – I am not advocating for not apologizing when it is earned or necessary. I am saying that apologizing for things you have no control over (you know who you are) or small, trivial things, or things that make you intrinsically you are does you no good and teaches the other person that you do not deserve respect.
Just some food for thought.
xoxo
-S
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